Devil in the Details

My form of wedding escapism is to focus on minute details that ultimately won't make a difference unless the photographer happens to zero in on it and it ends up on a wedding blog where they start oohing and ahhing over your attention to detail.

This is something the wedding industry is very, very good at. The aforementioned (though not named) blogs focus on things like seating cards and handmade ceremony programs and cute alternatives to guestbooks. They have to do this. What else could possibly sustain a wedding blog? They have to focus on little things that set those weddings apart. And it IS fun to see those things. But it can cause a lot of bride angst because they think they have to have a calligrapher write everybody's name on a river rock for their place setting. They panic, and spend money.

Have you ever perused theknot.com? I have an account. Got one right after getting engaged, because they have those really useful guest list and budget tools. I tend to avoid the rest of the site like the plague, though. For one; it's too much volume. I don't like flipping through page after page of incredibly similar, out of my price range dresses. There's just too much chance I'd fall in love with a cake by a baker across the country and be completely inconsolable that "the one" won't ship me a cake in dry ice the day before the wedding or something.

Do I think this would really happen to me? No. I don't even particularly want a cake. But I do love Ace of Cakes, so I've seen those bakery wizards work their magic.

The point? The more you allow that sort of thing into your life ("that sort of thing" being wedding porn), the more chance you may turn into annoying type-A bride who drives all her vendors crazy trying to execute her "vision."

I don't know, maybe I'm paranoid.

Anyway, on to the current distractions. I don't have a date, a venue, a caterer, a photographer, or anything that indicates I'm actually getting married (yet), but I was thinking to myself, "wouldn't it be pretty to wrap my future bouquet in a really cool lace?"

So I did a bit of hunting. Almost all the ones I fell in love with were black. I may not have a defined color palette yet, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to avoid the whole black-and-white wedding. I wish they had this one in off white, because I love the swirls. They seem like they'd work well in a 1930s sort of affair:

Sultry.

But I am leaning towards incorporating peach. So this one fit the bill:

Pretty, but expensive.

However, the one that has my heart right now is this beauty:

Love.

I think it's because it looks sorta vintage with the gray and taupe. And it's not really like other lace that I look at. I like things that don't look just like other things.

Seriously, why do I fantasize about things like what I'm going to wrap my (non-existent) bouquet in? Is this normal?